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Holy Marriages

“But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.” – Matthew 5:32

No one has a perfect marriage. Ask King David or our spiritual patriarch, Abraham.

Jesus understands this. At that time, many looked for loopholes to their marital covenants. In his Sermon on the Mount, Jesus called the people of that day to a higher standard of holiness. Jesus has similarly greater expectations for us, and he offers us greater rewards – here and in eternity.


God expects us to live our lives in a holy manner, placing all things into subjection under him, including our marriages.

Marriage is actually intended to benefit both the husband and the wife. Two broken people united in one purpose can complement and complete one another. As Jesus explained, “So then, they are no longer two but one flesh.” (Matthew 19:6) Which is why Jesus added, “Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”

God brings wholeness into our brokenness in a special way through marriage.

And in our marriages – as with the rest of our lives – we should be bringing glory to God. Peter wrote, “because it is written, ‘Be holy, for I am holy.’” (1 Peter 1:16)

We can enter into his presence at any time – through prayer and worship, Bible study and meditation – to understand his purpose for our lives and our marriages. Following Jesus daily – step-by-step – will bring greater meaning into our lives and our marriages and bring glory to God.

Let us place our lives and our marriages on his altar.

Let us pray the light and love into our lives.

Let his glory shine in us and in our marriages.


Vicky Beeching and the Lesbian Gospel

Vicky Beeching is a well-known Christian worship leader who has embraced a lesbian gospel and advocates for same-sex marriage.


Vicky’s gospel is couched in politically-correct terms of universal inclusion which are biblically inaccurate. Vicki says,

What Jesus taught was a radical message of welcome and inclusion and love. I feel certain God loves me just the way I am, and I have a huge sense of calling to communicate that to young people. When I think of myself at 13, sobbing into that carpet, I just want to help anyone in that situation to not have to go through what I did, to show that instead, you can be yourself – a person of integrity.”

I’ll get back to her concluding words – “a person of integrity” – in a moment.

“Search Me”

I purchased one of her CDs many years ago and enjoyed its content. I was particularly struck by one simple song, “Search Me,” which reminded me so much of King David’s plea that God create a pure heart in him. Search Me seemingly also draws its inspiration from Psalm 139:23-24, which reads:

“Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.”

In her own reflective ballad to the Father, Vicky beseechs God to search her to discover anything in her which does not reflect His purity. Vicky asks to be refined “in the fire of Your gaze” in order that she “might be holy in all of my ways.”

Vicky further asks, like David, for “a heart after Your own heart” and “a mind that is pure and pleasing to” Him. And she asks to be filled with love, and His power and joy, so that she might reflect God’s image to the world.

I’ve always liked that song and see it as a good model for meditation, reflection and prayer. It’s sentiments are certainly biblical.

Searching the Heart

Searching the heart is a good thing and God does it perfectly (Jer. 17:10, Rom. 8:27), while we, as imperfect beings, do so imperfectly. We might ask God for what David prayed and Vicki sought, and yet not see the answers God gives us. Often, our own human nature and natural desires get in the way.

The point of Vicky’s song was to experience spiritual transformation so that Vicky “might be holy in all of my ways.” This reflects God’s own heart, as expressed by the apostle Peter in his first epistle (1:13-16):

“Therefore gird up the loins of your mind, be sober, and rest your hope fully upon the grace that is to be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ; as obedient children, not conforming yourselves to the former lusts, as in your ignorance;  but as He who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct,  because it is written, ‘Be holy, for I am holy.’”

But being holy – as desired by God and sought by Vicky – requires God’s intervention and our cooperation. The apostle Paul, in a host of places, expresses the struggle Christians have aligning their wills with God’s.

Often, we fail. The temptation comes to think that God will accept our failings, even though He insists we die daily to ourselves. A further temptation arises in which we can convince ourselves that our own wrong thoughts and behaviors are not only acceptable in His eyes, but that we are actually doing His will when we are allowing Him to accept us as we are.

These are flawed ways of compromising with the world, denying God’s Word, and opposing His will.

LGBT Bible

On her website and blog, Vicky is generating a discussion concerning homosexuality and the Bible. She has offered up a series of resources and recommended reading to further her own point of view. Most of these resources offer up alternative interpretations or refutations of very clearly-worded passages in the Bible which resolutely condemn homosexuality.

(There now exists a “gay Bible” which purports to set the record straight, pun-intended, when it really makes straight paths crooked.)

Does the Bible endorse or promote homosexuality? This excellent article repudiates that notion: “Liberal Scholars Agree: The Bible Forbids Homosexuality.”

Ex-Gay Explains Gay Theology Fraud

In a Facebook response to Vicky’s claims, Greg Quinlan, former President of Parents and Friends of Ex-Gays and Gays, writes:

“The statement ‘I am gay and God loves me anyway’ is narcissistic at its core. You are making a demand of God attempting to manipulate His unrelenting love for you so as to accept and condone your mocking behavior. NO ONE is born homosexual. No one. ‘There are no replicated scientific studies supporting any specific biologic etiology for homosexuality’ (American Psychiatric Assn). There is Zero evidence of a ‘gay’ gene. ‘Homosexuality is not hard-wired’ (Dr. Francis Collins Director of the Human Genome Project NIH). Homosexuality is a developmental gender identity disorder that should never been removed from the list of disorders. Homosexuality is not biologic, genetic but there are vast sociological studies spanning over 150 years showing homosexuality as a disorder that is acquired by many factors including culture. Gay theology is a lie! Homosexuality is not innate but it is sinful. Homosexuality is completely outside of God’s created purpose for mankind.”

Same-Sex Marriage Denies the Gospel

Same-sex marriage is both unbiblical and antithetical to the gospel. In the Gospel of Matthew, Jesus affirms the Genesis account that marriage is between one man and one woman.

In his letter to the Ephesians, Paul observed that marriage (between a man and a women) typifies the relationship between Christ and the Church. In other words, a godly marriage is analogous to our spiritual relationship with God. A husband and a wife are to become one, just as Jesus and the Church are one, just as the Father, Son, and Spirit are one. Believers are called to know Jesus as intimately as husbands are to know their wives.

God, through Paul, is sharing with us deep spiritual truths. Jesus models His love for His people (the Church) just as husbands should exhibit sacrificial love for their wives. Wives are to be subject to and show respect toward their husbands just as the Church does to Christ. Each marriage – husband and wife – should reflect the godly, holy principles and patterns that Jesus modeled for His people. As you reflect upon Paul’s words, notice the emphasis on sacrificial love and sanctification, cleansing and purification. That we may be holy as He is holy.

Here is Ephesians 5:22-33 …

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”

Verses 31 and 33 clearly reaffirm the one man-one woman model of marriage. Why?

Verse 32 gives us the answer: Marriage reveals the nature of the relationship between Jesus and His Church.

“A Person of Integrity”

Vicky contends that by “being yourself” you can be “a person of integrity.” This utterly contradicts God’s Word. The word “integrity” derives from the concept of “wholeness” or “completeness.”

Every human being is broken in one way or another. It is God who brings us wholeness. God imparts spiritual transformation by giving us a new heart which is then, for the rest of our lives, molded and shaped into His image through His refining fire or, as Vicky put it, being refined by the fire of His gaze.

“Being yourself” – an unchanging stay just as you are “self” – is the opposite of God’s desire which is for something far, far better for us: being people who are “whole” – full of integrity – because they are full of God.

Romans 12:2 says, “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.”

“Being yourself” as Vicky expresses it, is to “be conformed to this world,” when God desires that we “be transformed.”

We all have choices to make, whether we will be holy as He is holy, whether we will die daily to ourselves and live daily to Him, whether we will choose God’s will over our own, and whether we will embrace God’s transforming presence in our lives or be conformed to a lesser (ungodly) reality.

Vicky, let God search your heart and clearly show you what He sees. As you embrace His love, embrace His will that you be holy as He is holy.